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  • [Hard Torque]: Mid-Life Crisis@21?

    Its 6:30 in the morning, the time when the morning mist is just about to clear and the sun is sleepily peeking out from the clouds, the air is cool and there is an ethereal golden glow lent by the sun’s ray’s shining through the clouds. My bike is standing there as if greeting me with a morning pleasantry, the light makes the body look as though the paint is still fresh, I have a small smile in my heart. I get on top of it and thumb the starter; the engine comes to life with a metallic whirr and then settles in to a baritone idle. The engine note blends in with the sounds of the morning along with the rustle of the trees and the chirp of the birds. I let it idle for just a few more seconds before I engage first and roll the bike out smoothly and amber about till I get onto the nearest tarmac (Since where I live most roads are still dirt tracks). Then I slowly start increasing my speed, the revs increase between my shifts, clutch gets dumped, shifting becomes quicker, braking becomes stronger. The bike now starts to demand that I put my full attention to it, I immediately and get into a position where the bike responds the best to my inputs. Heart beat rises, pupils dilate taking in as much information as it can, muscles tighten and the communication delay between my bike and me reduces to a minimum, my motor actions start to work involuntarily and react so quickly, that if I happen to see a obstacle the motor nerves almost instantly makes me drop a gear, start braking and maneuver around whatever is there in my path. The bike compensates wherever me as a rider lack and I compensate wherever the bike lacks, it’s a symbiotic relationship like every other where matters of the heart are involved. You are awarded when you trust the machine and when you do trust, it affirms your faith with the bike.

    Hence I’ve actually learnt to, If can say this so myself, become a better rider just by listening to my bike better. And in my opinion in order for the rider to improve in his quality, his bike is very important.

    And this brings us to the actual thing I was wanting to discuss on this thread here, all relationships both with man and machine are bound to sometimes draw thin with time, sometimes you are just bored by the monotony of it all, especially in my case.

    As I narrated in the previous paragraph, I would actually at one point of time look forward to go college just so I could ride the bike a good 12km flying at 70-80kmph. But as time wore on with the pressures of the mundane lives catching up to you, I could no longer hop on my bike and just ride away from it all every weekend. Blame the rising expenses or society’s view on what I do, but whatever it was I simply couldn’t continue doing what I once thought would never be taken away from me. Generally I’m not someone who romanticized my bike, I’m maintaining it well but I didn’t look beyond the fact that for all it was just an inanimate object, because I thought it would be silly to get depressed whenever I crash my bike, in turn it was my ability to communicate with my bike that I nourished and loved my life with.
    And this “communicative ability” in my case, is starting to wane out slowly. When I started to confine my riding from any extraneous activities, other than running errands for myself or for the family. But I still try to take it and turn it around, because we as riders seem to love the connection with our bikes, so no matter what I’m still loving my bike. Lately the bike fell under the weather what with the badly worn out tires, and everyone knows you can’t give it your full with tires that don’t grip, so when I changed my riding style to a slightly milder tone. I immediately found that albeit being comfortable, a small wall started creeping up between me and my bike, if you see any everyday commuter on his bike you can see that the rider is not actually “riding” it but just making it “take” him from here to there by effective use of the bike’s controls, it’s like how some of us work, we may not love our jobs but still be able to do it. And I slowly started falling into that vicious cycle, try as I might I just couldn’t find the urge or passion I used to have when I first started out on my then brand new bike. I was always finding ways to re-invent but am just falling short of the required standard.

    Time can be cruel mistress, therefore when my bike happens to break down or needs a periodical part replaced I’m finding it hard to fight for my bike with the rest of my family, because when my bike creates expenses it means that I’ve not been maintaining properly and that irritates. And the new bikes on the street doesn’t make things easier either, so when I’m standing at red-lights and the guy next to me pulls up in a bike that is less expensive but with better features than mine.

    And I know this phase will come to pass when the years roll on, but the remaining time with my bike depends on how I handle this particular obstacle between me and the bike. And I can be very temperamental when I no longer seem to have interest in the things I own, and if I get temperamental on my bike it’ll affect the rider in me. And to me the rider quality is what defines me as a person, people find it easier to associate me with my bike, and I like that. So I would like others like me here to put up their opinions on this matter and tell me how you overcame this phase when it occurred to you.
    Last edited by Sunny; 08-15-2009, 11:18 PM. Reason: Paragraphing
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    Anything in the world if overdone will risk it being tagged as monotonous. Once your brain experiences a certain thing it is 'wired' and the next time you do it would be a little more like a natural reflex. Something like when you are going back from your office to home on a bike you dont even think of the route, your body is directing the motorcycle based on instructions from the brain transmitted over a subconscious cerebral layer.

    I know businessmen who once dreamed of making it big and owning big cars, but now even they are finding this 'boring'.

    To keep oneself driven, you must keep trying new things. If you dont use your bike to tour anywhere then you will not realize how many places it can take you. Buy yourself some new gear, do a new paintjob, make things interesting. Its human nature and an indication to move to a higher level and try something new.
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    • #3
      Sometimes at a point of time,Life seems to have become'd stable and following the same kind of pattern on a daily Basis,it becomes very monotonous.

      Introducing small changes frequently would keep a person indulged in the new activities and keep his mind rolling down the line and learning new things over the period of time along with the slow curve!

      The life at 21 is the learning phase,what you will learn now is what you will be may be 5 years and 10year's down the line!

      Truly Commendable words EL-LOCO-Diablo,very well written my friend!
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      • #4
        Well...i do get bored at times riding my bike again and again. So i keep changing my rides often and change my ridng habit every now and then too. And once you get back to your old self you enjoy every moment of it.

        This is what i do and it still keeps me close to my RTR. It still puts a smile on my face whenever i rip it. But rip rip rip will get boring at times. Try riding like how a commuter would ride....then get back to your usual riding say after 10days and rediscover yourself
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        • #5
          Originally posted by Sunny View Post
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          Anything in the world if overdone will risk it being tagged as monotonous. Once your brain experiences a certain thing it is 'wired' and the next time you do it would be a little more like a natural reflex. Something like when you are going back from your office to home on a bike you dont even think of the route, your body is directing the motorcycle based on instructions from the brain transmitted over a subconscious cerebral layer.

          I know businessmen who once dreamed of making it big and owning big cars, but now even they are finding this 'boring'.

          To keep oneself driven, you must keep trying new things. If you dont use your bike to tour anywhere then you will not realize how many places it can take you. Buy yourself some new gear, do a new paintjob, make things interesting. Its human nature and an indication to move to a higher level and try something new.
          Thank you Sunny, for the paragraphing, i used to dabble here and there in a few essays but looks like i'm a bit rusty

          Originally posted by L.P. View Post
          Sometimes at a point of time,Life seems to have become'd stable and following the same kind of pattern on a daily Basis,it becomes very monotonous.

          Introducing small changes frequently would keep a person indulged in the new activities and keep his mind rolling down the line and learning new things over the period of time along with the slow curve!

          The life at 21 is the learning phase,what you will learn now is what you will be may be 5 years and 10year's down the line!

          Truly Commendable words EL-LOCO-Diablo,very well written my friend!
          Thank you L.P., i was merely stating my feelings as they emerged whilst writing this

          Originally posted by onlinesatish View Post
          Well...i do get bored at times riding my bike again and again. So i keep changing my rides often and change my ridng habit every now and then too. And once you get back to your old self you enjoy every moment of it.

          This is what i do and it still keeps me close to my RTR. It still puts a smile on my face whenever i rip it. But rip rip rip will get boring at times. Try riding like how a commuter would ride....then get back to your usual riding say after 10days and rediscover yourself
          Originally posted by rennycornelius
          There are times when i find myself looking at the red light to turn green...
          My tacho glued to 5000 when thr are 10 sec left..
          thn i let go the clutch pull a wheelie off the line and i win the traffic light GP.

          This gives me a sense of satisfaction when i beat an 18 year old kid in his zma or 180 with my Fi cuz that poor chap don’t know whn to shift gears and how to drive it correctly....

          thr are times when they pull close to me show me a hand to race with them, sometimes i show them my speedo drop a gear and then i show them what "revving the hell outta bike" means...

          but thr are times i let the kid win cuz this seems all a very kiddish stuff to me...

          We all get bored with the same things in life..
          but when i get bored with the traffic light GP,i got to twisties put my leg down at every curve and talk to my bike,that yes!!! you can pull it babe!!!,c'mon you should have showed more power at 7500 then you're showin to me right now!!!!

          and when i get bored from this too,i go to the open road park my bike in front and think that life is not about biking sometimes.....

          It's not about fiddling with the carb,it's not about getting new broad soft compound tyre,it's not about shifting each gear at the red line,it's not about scrapin the pegs,it's not about getting ur hands dirty while cleaning out the air filter,it's not about checkin the plugs colour.....

          it's about several other things too,tht happens when we are 21 or 23 or more than that....

          when we have to put our biking passion in side for many other practical things in life.....

          i cannot go and spend 10000 bucks on the new end can because i'll be needing those bucks for some other work too....

          thr are many amongst us who cannot go and buy a superbike worth 8lakhs,inspite of having the bucks cuz they have to buy the first car of the family too....

          I really begged my father to buy me 2007 R6 when it came out...but he bought me Ford Fiesta 1.4 ZXI sayin-"it makes more sense"...

          2 years down the line now,i believe it does......

          i miss my being 18 when i used to ask things from my dad and i used to spend anything on my bike without thinkin twice that i may be in need of it later cuz I always had dad’s hand reaching for me before me putting my hands in my pocket for bucks…

          but things are changed now....
          now it's my pocket that i've to fill,

          but still if i'm 100% tensed of something,my bike shaves off 80% for me when i go out with her....

          if it's not with bike then listening to ur fav tracks you can try out a car with ur love by ur side on a long ride gives you many more things other than biking in real world....

          but at the end of the day,i feel blessed for having many things in life to choose from to get that smile on my face when i get bored.
          If Invention was the mother of necessity, then Reinvention is the mother of creativity, change is ultimately the only thing that can save our souls from it's dreary fate which in my opinion is far worse than anything else.Thanks guys, eventhough the explanantion is obvious and i too have thought on the same lines, when it comes out from various people from around the country, the whole sentence changes and gets a fresh new meaning. It's like when you keep looking at something long enough you can the see that thing will change your perception of it over and over again surprising you every time. So looks like i might to look hard in my bike to find it's lost soul and also mine
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          • #6
            Very well written my friend..

            7 years ago when i started biking i never even imagined where that road would lead me.
            The road has gone through heights of a new bike , lows of accidents, tons of potholes and now its in the plains .. atleast i thought it was in the plains.
            Until recently i discovered how important it is to constantly re-discover yourself. yes life is monotonous, But thats something that just does not happen by itself. i mean we make it monotonous. The mirage of daily responsibility and other commitments totally blind us.
            There is always time. There is always that new thing you have never done.
            There is always a new experience to be felt. There is always a new lesson to be learn and there are always new people to meet.
            you dont need anything but yourself to inspire you. From where i stand we all love the change but hate to do it for fear of a lot of factors that actually make us miss a lot in life.
            - You spend half your life before you realize your are ordinary, you then, either are too lazy to change or you do the extraordinary and change the world!

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            • #7
              @renny
              when we have to put our biking passion in side for many other practical things in life.....

              thr are many amongst us who cannot go and buy a superbike worth 8lakhs,inspite of having the bucks cuz they have to buy the first car of the family too....

              I really begged my father to buy me 2007 R6 when it came out...but he bought me Ford Fiesta 1.4 ZXI sayin-"it makes more sense"...

              "Actions indicate Priority" my friend...
              I come from a middle-class family too and its just that parents will never be happy/understand at you investing so much on 2-wheels which can hardly or comfortably carry 2 people...

              2 years down the line now,i believe it does......

              But one should realise that "Its Now or Never", I mean you can afford an SBK now, so just pick it up, a car will definetly follow,once you end-up in marriage...
              One should not repent for his actions later(of not buying it inspite of the cash)

              PS: No offence at all bro, just putting my opinion about this..
              Last edited by strider; 08-19-2009, 04:59 PM. Reason: typo
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              • #8
                do not take me otherwise but i yawned half way through the article, cuz i guess i predicted what was coming, ideally i won't call it mid life crisis, crisis is something when you do not have it or can't afford, its more of a boredom creeping in. Well there is one thing i always believed in "when you are 21 you think ok, i have seen 20 yrs of my life and learned from them, but when you are 25 and look back, you feel things have changed or may be not, there is no end to maturity or learning" may be most of us in India learn to ride too early for boredom to creep in, most of us cannot afford luxury of being in Debts to buy high performance machines, and miss good roads to try adventure.

                I bought FZ 16 this year and have completed 2k kms in 6 months and in college i did those in 1.5 months on my pulsar v1, may be cuz i moved to a more comfortable way of living with rise in income, moving to a car or taking flights to travel even short distances, rather hitting jaipur on my bike. Passion wears out with time until you are reaping something out of it or may be thats the way we perceive it.

                If you can still woo girls, make a living out of it, you will not feel monotonous riding a bike. There is a self exploration and Self realization, i believe you reached the latter and i think its better.

                Do not mind starting of my para but sometimes i feel i can post loath of heavy words and make it approved for hard torque, well yours was better as it connected well as it progressed.

                Also i wanted to add in country like ours even if you ride an intruder or R1 on lookers are only on road, but remember if you travel to a hotel or mall or any other place car gets more value, even if you ride the costliest bike it is quietly ignored in 2 wheeler parking.

                I agree with Renny also because all of our dad's are adventurous at our ages, my dad rode from Java to Yezdi to Enfield all the bikes at his age, but after 40 yrs his suggestion of buying a car makes more sense cuz he has loads of experience behind it, atleast more than us, with highest road accident prone country a car makes more sense including safety, and loading. Also remember in our country taxi's are 2 wheelers are stopped most by cops.

                Its ok to get bored, only then you will try news things, if there were no cravings a newer recipe would never be invented
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Mindgrinder View Post
                  do not take me otherwise but i yawned half way through the article, cuz i guess i predicted what was coming, ideally i won't call it mid life crisis, crisis is something when you do not have it or can't afford, its more of a boredom creeping in. Well there is one thing i always believed in "when you are 21 you think ok, i have seen 20 yrs of my life and learned from them, but when you are 25 and look back, you feel things have changed or may be not, there is no end to maturity or learning" may be most of us in India learn to ride too early for boredom to creep in, most of us cannot afford luxury of being in Debts to buy high performance machines, and miss good roads to try adventure.

                  well said.........
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                  • #10
                    ^+1, But the "crisis" was put there not for me but for my bike, because the bike is already half through it's life, I estimate my bike to be with me for about five-six years, and right now the bike is two years old, therefore the title "mid-life" and also i'm known to be terribly lax in maintenance of anything once i lose interest in it, my previous scooter had never been washed ever in it's three years with me!, the only clean areas in my bike would be the grips and the seat
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                    • #11
                      I had similar feelings about my older bike since I got my R15 a year back.
                      She was given some attention as a last pampering before the new babe came in, but now she seems to be complaining (the lesser I use her the more trouble she gives).
                      I guess the only way would be to pamper your bike, give her all the attention that she deserves, take her for a few sweet rides, till her mood is fine again (just like an upset gf).
                      I plan to do the same, coz its not really easy breaking a 5 year old bond!

                      Edit: I gave her the attention, time&money she needed, &thanks to xBhp members who have helped in identifying&solving the problems, she is in pristine condition today&that brings a smile to my face everytime I see/sit on her! Old is gold!
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by rennycornelius
                        no actually my prob at that time was my father gave me a budget of 8 for a car,but i was insisting him to buy me that GOD R6,cuz we're having 2 cars at that time too....but he bought me that.....

                        but still i had to go to his decision,although he understands my passion about cars and bikes but still he was in favour of the car,i did what he told me.....

                        cuz all years till now he gave me much more that i could have ever asked for....
                        and he gave me my own car at the age of 21 that too a proper saloon,7000 manic RPM touching machine..




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                        that's why i wrote there that "two years down the line,i think it does makes more sense"...

                        as now i have a car,all i need is to collect the bucks and buy that SUPERBIKE.....

                        he gave me that thing at that time,cuz now if i get married,i have a car that'll make me hold her while driving.....

                        and yes that R6 will follow soon..........
                        Fair Enough Renny...
                        But Iam glad that the desire to own an SBK hasn't died...
                        All the best for the R6 pursuit
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                        • #13
                          One day,I had this accident due to a stupid bus coming in the wrong way.One month of bed rest with a broken bone and another one on crutches.And finally when I was ready,there was a shock in store.My dad was no longer ready to hand over the bikes keys to me. Convincing,explaining nothing worked.He was in no mood to get me even a smaller capacity bike or any 2-wheeler for that matter.5 months have passed since the accident happened,but everyday I see,what used to be my zma,parked in our garage(my dad uses it now)I start to think,did I deserve this for no fault of mine?Parting with something you were so passionate about just because a whacky driver,who was probably drunk had a go on me.Don't I deserve another chance?Can't we leave it behind?... Just lots of questions...and I believe this is what crisis is.The struggle within ourselves,the struggle to find the answers.It's a phase where where you understand yourself better and redefine your preferences so that you can enjoy this small lifespan that we're allotted...

                          P.S.btw,though I'm free to use the car,I ride this cbz-x of my dads which is in a not so good condition beyond normal repairs because the biker in me never tends to cease and always yearns for more.I'll never take the wrong way(read giving up riding) just because a stupid bus is in mine...
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                          • #14
                            It's not just your love for bike and things associated that takes a dwindle, it's like almost everything that you believed in as a teenager changes. Two-and-a-half years after passing from the college, the life that we dreamt of is no longer interesting. I often sit wondering how I got caught in this mundane form of existence which is supposedly life. Even a few months ago, I had the enthusiasm to take a spin on the CBZ, go for an offroad back-breaker, do a small hill climb, sweep a corner...and all this during my lunch hour! And not to forget the routine wheelie I did when entering the empty parking lot in the morning. Ever since I lost the bike, I feel distanced from all that bikes are about. The Bullet is seated firmly in the parking lot as I type, yet I hardly feel an urge to go to that riverside drive that would hardly take half an hour of my oh-so-lazy schedule. I no longer have my broken helmet for my longer rides, but I miss the air rushing into my eyes and making life pass in a blur, a quarter-mile at a time. I wonder if I am living my own life of a life that others expect me to live. A life being wasted bickering and bitc*ing about what could have been.

                            That being said, the soul of the tourer has not died down. A little subdued maybe, but not buried. Some days, I still feel like a college boy waking up and not wanting to do what I am supposed to, then spend the day going for lunch a hundred-something kilometers away from home, or finding bike parts in another city and then ride away to an unplanned destination. I enjoy parking my bike by the highway, sitting on the railing and eating anything on offer, observing the living and breathing road that would take me to places afar. I might no longer rise before the sun to go on a ride, but I am no longer afraid of driving in the dark. Its not the phase in life I am in; I have graduated to the next stage of a biker's life, someone more level-headed than a year ago.
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                            • #15
                              i got a brand new pulsar 180 on the first year of my college it was golden times of throttles i was doin not more than 40 kilometers per hour as i could not directly rev a new bike every day i started knowing of its power when it went for a few services it was the time i used to start from home at 9.45 to a college which is at 10.00 and i had to cover a good 16kms with peak traffic as more and more i reved the more it became powerful it was like magic we were in the perfect sync ma bike was like a mighty sword in the hands of a brave soilder as the signal turns green my front wheel would be in the air and i would be off about 20 meteres from the place the bike was so powerful it used to cross 110 easily and bikers seein me used to race and i never knew fear have almost ripped every road on chennai it was days of magic i used to wait for the college to finish to ride back home and there used to be this wide bridge by the side of airport we used to fly like jets water gushin out of your eyes and air whislin high on your ear and the roar of vehicle i felt like a king but one day when i was lettin it rip my front tyre skid and me and my bike where thrown out and directly smashed to the wall of the subway the front of my bike got totally damaged and i broke my face and tooth and my face and hands were torn off i spent some time in the hospital and i took about 4 months to get back on bike and my bike was fixed and as good as new but now when i drive i miss the riding spirit of mine i am not able to sync with my bike i feel my biking days of wheelies and high revs have taken off me and i have been badly punished of fear i still rev but those days where the best and i feel it will never come back well its time who has to answer still i love my ride and maintainin it in great condition i hope time will do the magic
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