Re: Speaking OUR CONSCIENCE CONSCIOUSLY and helping others

[MENTION=62914]petrolhead_chn[/MENTION]. I am arrogating a semblance of authority to comment on this because I have a 14 year old son and a 9 year old daughter and have done the usual - late night feeds, rocking the baby to sleep, the twists and turns of their infancy etc.

At 2 years, the child is still settling down to its natural rhythm of life so the doctor is correct when he says that it is normal.

One technique which has worked for both my kids is exposure to sunlight. At such a tender age, most kids stay indoors and out of natural sunlight for most hours of the day. This tends to upset their circadian cycle which is governed by the Sun. Try to get the child to be out under natural sunlight for some hours in a day and I am sure you will find that she goes to bed naturally.

If you work in shifts, your wife would have to plan the baby's day carefully. A schedule should be laid down. Set timings for waking, meals, naps and bedtime. Initially, the child will rebel but as the magic of the Sun coupled with regular timings kicks in, the child will stabilise.

A dry nappy is critical to sound, unbroken sleep at night. I am sure that you have checked out any other illnesses that prevent sleep - tummy ache, ambient sound levels, warm and comfy clothing, no excitement like a blaring TV/music system etc.

A nice massage before the pre-bedtime bath will soothe the child and is recommended strongly. If the child likes milk, a cup of warm milk before bed will again sooth her tummy and get her to sleep soundly.

[MENTION=27501]rreneav1987[/MENTION]. Best wishes for tying the knot. It is a silken knot of happiness. Due to the pressures of daily life, the knot tends to loosen, the silk tends to fray, the bond tends to weaken. An open, frank, cheerful and forgiving approach keeps it like new.

[MENTION=27501]rreneav1987[/MENTION]. Marriage is like a bike. If you red-line it before it breaks in, it breaks down. Regular servicing - oil changes, filter changes, washes, polishes etc - keep it running smoothly. A well run-in, well maintained bike is always better than a brand-new one from the showroom. Yes, it has a few scratches to reflect experience on the road. But you how, why and when each scratch came up and try your best to avoid any new ones, right? You are always alert to odd sounds from every part of the bike and take action to anticipate the issue before it becomes a problem.
[MENTION=61791]Cleaner[/MENTION]. See my note to rrneave above too.

If you had been actually scared of Life, you would not have born at all in the first place. A lot of humourous stuff is written here on marriage by psr, whymail and me. I assure you that given a chance, all three of us would want to be married and to the self-same person. Like in biking, skids, falls, WTF moments are there in a marriage too. One turns into the skids, picks up neself and the bike after a fall and does not allow the WTF moments to come up again. So also in a marriage.

To marry or not is your personal choice. If you do decide to do so, it will be the most natural thing for a human to do. If you do not, you will be denied the pleasure of one of the greatest adventures Man can experience in his wretched life on this Earth. You will be denied the subliminal companionship of the only person in the world who is yours and who can call you her own.
Your entire outlook to Life will undergo a transformational change for the better as a married man. That is, if you approach it with positivity and are willing to walk the extra mile to establish the bond.

And one of the most beautiful experiences is to fall deeper and deeper in love with your wife as both of you progress in your marriage.

Do review your decision. It is worth it.

Re: Speaking OUR CONSCIENCE CONSCIOUSLY and helping others

That helped [MENTION=33779]icemang[/MENTION]. The sunlight thing is true. We barely get opportunity on a 'daily basis'. I am going to try that ;-)
Thank you.

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You are welcome. My daughter needed me at bedtime so I used to sing her a coma-inducing lullaby "Nanhi pari, soney chali, hawa tu dheerey se aana" and so on and so forth. By the time the lullaby was over, she would off into Dreamland and I would be nodding my head.

Treasure every single day of your child's infancy. She will grow so fast that before you know it, she would be a teenager. For them, time runs at warp drive in these years. I wish I could turn the clock back to my kids' infant and toddler days but then Time and Tide wait for no one. Thru our children, we see ourselves the way our parents saw us. That is Life...

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I still recollect the day when my daughter was born and I was desperately dying to see her crawl, pick up my cellphone to say "Hello daddy..."
That happened finally and between the last 3-5 months she has managed to send 2 of my best phones to coma and they are on ventilators for past 2.5 weeks. I am lucky that those phones were only java and symbian phones. I have withheld my plans for a new phone for sometime now ;-)

It is indeed true that time flies by and they grow up in no time. I just enjoyed reading your statements @icemang. Thank you.
BTW, I am glad my daughter is on schedule for past 3 days - in and out of bed in time. Time to focus on her food schedule. She hardly eats and the usual drama goes around between her, my wife and my mom .

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Petrolhead_chn

Great initiative brother, loved reading his thread. Every guy has a story and a unique one and you do learn from others experiences.

My solace lies in a couple of whisky pegs at my favorite joint after a hard day's work. I switch my fones off. I sit for a couple for hours trying not think about work and career. Its just me and my much required space . No one to judge . No one to give any false sympathy. No one to give any advice. Just blank space. The whiskey kicks in. Mind goes comfortably numb for sometime. No matter how much i try but subconsciously im reminded of failures of my life. Some wounds freshen up inturn bringing the moments in front of my eyes which i want to forget forever. But i cant. It aint that simple.
Just for my satisfaction , i curse my god. Finish the last remaining whiskey and make my way towards home hoping to get some decent sleep.


Ps : Alcohol is injurious to health have it in moderation. I have learnt it the hard way. :beer:


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Hi guys,
I was recommended by a friend of mine to a blog called Art of manliness. Good stuff. Google and check it out.

Although I am still single but I got a chance to take care of my two year old nephew for a couple of months. Never knew that this cute little thing was mini hulk. I got better with him as the days passed, but some days were really testing. Sometimes their tanturms are so absurd. Once he saw a herd of pigs and told me he wanted one. I started laughing like hell until i realized he was serious and crying. I had to.watch gangam style for like 50 times to make him forget about the pigs. And guess what next morning he sees those shit eating rascals again and the cycle repeats. My love and respect for my parents increased that day by atleast a zillion times.
In short I learnt that the best way is to have their day planned. Fixed bathing, eating, shitting and sleeping timings. And if you have that little kid in you, wake him up. It makes things a hell lot easier, like watching cartoons and making weird noises all day long.

P.S.: also watch tv series named Louie by louis ck and God bless those parents who have twins.

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+1 on that .

This reminds me of my daughter *meditating* the same word 'paattu' over and over again until she is seeing the same song again. She keeps repeating 'shennu' (which is my 'late' phone in reality) until I give it to her. These days will not come back. I am enjoying a lot.

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You mean something like this? http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedi...win_Engine.jpg

Jokes aside, raising kids is not very easy and not everyone's cup of tea. I remember hearing in a movie that "Any fool can make a baby, but it takes a real man to be a father." I think that is true.

One of me neighbor has a kid who is highly ignored by her mother, the mother just sits on a chair like nothing happened while the girl cries her eyes out and makes my day a nightmare with her screams. I wonder what the heck is going on with the mother. I just hope the girl won't turn up like me when she grows up.

One of my female friend (actually the only one) who lived in the city had befriended a neighbor's kid who was like 3-4 years old. She would just go home from college and take care of him like she was his mother, the kid liked her too and spend more time with her than his own mother. I too befriended him after meeting him multiple times at her house and mind you, I don't like kids and to be honest, I get intimidated by them. He was nice and I could get along easily but after like a year or so, her parents did not approve of me going there so I stopped, and just after few months, there was a fire in the area and she went missing, there was rumors that she ran away to Arunachal Pradesh. Her family arranged her funeral and after that I have never been to that damn place. I hope the kid is doing alright and she is happy too, that's the only time I ever interacted with a kid and I gotta admit, it was fun and stress relieving, it produced high amount of stress later though.

I don't know if this is relevant to this thread or not, this just came to my mind after reading the thread, so I posted it. Now off to enjoy my birthday.